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Wednesday 21 November 2012

Forget-Me-Not



Lets be honest...!! The biggest fear in the world is of death thats what people say... But the second biggest fear according to me is the fear of being forgotten.. Not after the death... But when u r alive right here.. right now..!!

Each one of us is scared of being alienated specially by the people who mean a lot to us... Or may be the people whom we neva wanna forget..!!  The realization that you are being forgotten while u r very much alive is the biggest blow any1 can face...!! 

No... I am not at all Athazagoraphobic... But I am just bringing it to notice the pain each one goes through when they are being forgotten.. May it be of parents when their kids forget them while they are living... Some dumping them into old age homes... Or may be at times of kids when they are left on streets to suffer just coz parents can't afford them... and then they are taken to orphanages and their fates are sealed... May be at times a childhood friend forgetting u in pleasures and remembering u in pains... or may be someone forgetting u coz the crowd around them is so large that they cant notice u.... May be at times a lover forgetting his beloved and the talks they shared.. or may be a husband who forgets what sacrifices his wife has made for him in past years...!! 

Have you ever experienced how it feels to be forgotten??? I m sure each 1 of us has.... at some point of life....

It is just so painful when someone decides to tear ur page off from their book called 'Memory'.. and all you can do is watch them in horror as they crumble your page and throw it over the roof right into the dustbin... You stand their, motionless, wondering what went wrong that it makes so painful for them to even remember U... They make u realize that deleting you from their life is the best thing they can do to themselves.. And it hurts even more when u are left half the way without any explanation??? Or if someone forgets you intentionally?? 

I really dont know which one hurts more... But I know one thing for sure that I do die a little when someone forgets me...I die everytime someone kills me in their memory.... I die everytime people coffin their emotions related to me..!! 

All I can say is don't do so...!! Every person who even spares u 1 minute in their busy schedules are worth a smile and ur time... May it be ur parents, ur kids, ur mentor, ur best friends, any1....  They are people who have loved u unconditionally... and wud do anything to make u smile.... They can go outta their way beyond infinity if they could just see ur 1 smile that arises from heart and travels right to ur lips and reflects in ur eyes.. 

Treasure every loved one... Coz when u r gone... None will remember what wealth u had.. what u spoke.. what u did.. they will just remember how u made them feel.... 

Whenever u decide to give up or forget something or someone ... Please first remember the reason why u held on for so long,... May it be a dream.. May it be a person.. May it be a job.. Anything...!!

Once u r gone foreva, Dates on ur gravestone aren't things that matter in life, but the small dash between them.. that little line is what tells ur life story, no matter how short or long ur lifespan may be... Touch a heart.. Enlighten a soul.. Embrace ur loved ones...  Be with them...

I am doing my bit.. Valuing each person who is close to me.. I hope I dont become a faint memory for any1, unsure of worth and nearing my end.....I hope and I still hope that I'm always missed.. Not only when I am gone.. But more when I am alive..!! 

Here I am with a Warm Cup of Orange Hazelnut Coffee on the Table and Hands on my chin wondering how many people have killed me in their memories....??? And how many people I have killed in my memory so far???? 

All I am asking for is to "Forget-Me-Not"..... Will U do that for Me??????

I wud prefer a Small Petal of Rose, A kind word, A hug and a smile now than a garland of roses, long speeches, and tearful eyes... on my corpse.....!! Make people feel important when they are alive..!! Value them...!! 



P.S. - A "Forget-Me-Not" flower to all my closest ones....!!! And that too my favourite colour... BLUE.... *grin*


35 comments:

  1. Excellent..!!
    yu have just up the thoughts of many people in this lovely article...!! just loved it ..!!
    looking forward for some other from yur side..!!
    good luck <3 :)

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    1. Thank u hemakshi... will surely try to write more... I m happy u find connected to the article.. U made my day..! Thanks...!! <3 :)

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  2. Wonderful.... A blog that moistened my eyes..!! I loved it... Beautifully written... And u have covered every aspect how each person feels... Superb...!! I loved this one..!!

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    1. Thank u mom... Hugs.. I guess I m doing my bit for each one of u who are imp to me.. May it b u all or family or frnds or mentor.. or any1...

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    2. best blog by u till date perks ....

      u've lucidly penned down ur thoughts and silent emotions..
      pinky promise perks... u'll neva be forgottn...

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    3. y hv u commented in between... hehehehhe.. pinky promise??? hahaha. thank u sooo mch hemi.. *hugs to U*

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  3. Truly Brilliant & Best... but I disagree tho the clause that near dear ones forget you... There is no ways anyone can forget ppl around them or they have spent time with. Yes due to the convenience, time boundaries, priorities, situations & circumstances, taking one for granted thinking u ll be der as a pillar they do get away but ... @ back of your mind thy always ve u going on.

    I ve in my life seen that ... not everyone is good @ expressions which hurts @ times but than .... every human being has to understand God controls their life ... which I have learnt.

    But yes the thought is a Million Trillion Dollars Worth :)

    No matter what I shall be always there for u .... yea I dont show my face more often as I do but I am sooo way stucked up currently ... hoping things to be NORMAL ... with lots of coffee's n dinners

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    1. LOL... m not pointing out at any1 in particular.. Not at all.. :P Its jst that m trying to portray how it feels when u frget sm1 who did so mch for U... Esp the kids who dump their parents .. may b at times to old age homes.. or at times may the parents who dump their kids on roadside..esp orphanages...

      Thank u for ur valuable comment.. I disagree that its abt time, pressure, workload..etc.. no.. its always about priorities.. and i agree that v shud respect each individual's priorities... But how much tym does it take to jst make sm1 feel special.. jst a hug or a smile or a sms or a kind word.. only a sec

      Staying at the back of the mind.. Is somethng u r talking about subconscious mind.. But then how mch time does it take to do 1 sms or call.. hardly a sec??? Dats my point.. Dont take any1 for granted... Even the nicest person gets saturated at times..

      Things are already Normal between us.... Fikar Not...!! :)

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    2. Yes--If people want to stay in your life, they will always find a way. If not they will find excuses.

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    3. yaaaaa.... thank u mam for supporting.. I m just still numb that my favourite author commented.. Omg..!! Its lyk Dream Come True..!!

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  4. Beautiful thoughts. And valid points.

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    1. Thank u soooo mch... Hence Proved...!! :P.. Validation holds water... lol

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    1. thank u sooooo mch Mr. Rj... hehehe.. gud that sm1 from media appreciated it.. m honoured...!! :)

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  6. Dunno how did I land here but it was really touching and soulful, love the way how you've depicted the emotions in a simpler way here. Keep it going! =)

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    1. Mr. Pathak.. Thanks for d compliments.. I appreciate it.. Ya Life indeed is very simple.. But its v who make it complicated... Good u landed up here unknowingly..!! Not in loss at all... =)

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  7. babe ... it doesnt take much time to sms or call but there are times even the person wud feel that shud thy call or sms since it wud ve been a while n the person wud accept u or not. I ve gone thru similar experiences n not always one is welcome to be a part of life...

    its jus my perspective...

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    1. Dont worry... If u have heard that Hindi Saying - "Subah ka bhula agar shaam ko wapas aaye toh usse sab accept kar hi lete hai.." Especially those who know u... If the person knows you thoroughly and loves u they vl accept U even though u come after decades...!! Atleast as far as I m concerned.. I can accept n welcome again ppl i luv n number of times.. coz i know them...!! =)

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  8. But sometimes relationships do break. Things change and people do move on.
    Someone or something even better comes into your life, though it might not seem so at that moment as you are still hurting real bad.
    This has been my learning.

    Thanks for stopping by :)
    Preeti

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    1. I m just speechless that the Bestseller "Preeti Shenoy" commented on my blog..!! Omg..!! I m jst numb as hell... Ya my mentor once taught me that "Healing is an Eventual Process"... So i agree to it.. But its not about healing or hurting..its about giving importance to the correct people at correct time so that u dont regret later.. coz then it doesnt make difference..!!

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  9. kudos darling..... keep up de good work...

    btw i believe in forgiving but definitely our ways r different...!!!!! wink wink

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    1. yaaa our ways are different aashu.. U forgive but u dont trust them again.. But i trust them again.. coz i love the people i know... =) ...I believe Evryone in life deserves a "SECOND CHANCE"... dats about it

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  10. Nice one Barkha,
    I could easily relate this to my life. I just hate people when they say i did not have the time to call or meet up etc.. And as Preeti (who I have now become a huge fan of..) has said...Yes--If people want to stay in your life, they will always find a way. If not they will find excuses is a universal truth no matter where we are what culture we follow. Its very sad that I really do not share a very good bonding with my parents which in fact has to always be there in every parent and child relationship. My parents always had a dialogue always ready saying that they were working (although just from 9-5)and did not have the time for sharing feelings. I just hated this dialogue which they usually said .." we are paying for your fees, feeding you and providing necessary clothing so what else do you require post this ". I think I was/am truly weak in vocabulary and convincing that there exists a lot more than just materialistic things in life. I am extremely thankful to my in-laws who have actually taught me what a parent and child relationship is and. Some people have asked me as to why I quit my well paid job as I could have hired a maid or left my baby in the day care. But I absolutely have no regrets having quit my job as I am satisfied with what i have and what my husband is earning and just want to relax and give quality amount of time to my baby. And of course I always get irritated when my parents who call me just once or twice a year when its needed to attend a family function as they have to answer hundreds of relatives as to why I am not there. :( :(

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    1. I actually understand every word u r talking about.. and i can feel.. I believe there are emotions which are beyond materialistic things.. And i empathize with u.. But I wanna tell u just 1 thng.. Ur parents may be cud not give u time coz of whatsoever reason at that time.. So now u r also forgetting them?? R u doing justice?? Whats d difference between u and them??.. My mentor once taught me - "Tit-for-tat is a vengeance and person who does it is herself the sufferer.. So pls dont do it...".. They forgot u i understand .. But pls u give them time in their later years so that u dont regret later... Try it once.. For me.. and keep me updated about the result...!! And to see the positive side, U can always say that U came to know na what u r not supposed to do or say to ur kids... So dats about it.. At the end of the day, u learned something...!! Dats what imp

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    2. You are right Barkha and I do feel guilty for not keeping in touch with them although they are not. Only good thing that I can think is that I respect them for the education that they have given me. I have actually tried to patch up and forget whatever break-ups have happened in the past many times which did not work and hence the so called " tit-for-tat"
      I think you can imagine whats the level of bonding I am sharing with my parents if my 2.5 year old daughter does not recognize who my parents are although we live in the same city. hardly 15 Kms apart.
      Its very easy to forgive compared to forgetting a lot of things that have happened in our lives. However even after I've tried to forget and lead a normal relationship.. I have got to hear things which were not expected :( :(
      What's the use of a relationship if there's no bonding, no respect for feelings and is just needed only when occasion arises?

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    3. Its a long story again and I think someone can write a book on it. ha ha ha..!!!

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    4. I understnd and can feel ur pain.. But just forgive them... WHen u were a kid there may be a lot of mistakes for which they myt hv forgiven u.. so now its ur turn to forgive them... U keep on doing ur duties and responsibilities.. Coz the true fact is U exist coz they exist.. U are in the world coz they brought u.. U living a life coz they brought u to life.. And see god did justice na.. Its not necessary u get the love back frm the same person u desire.. It myt b from other person but u get what u deserve.. and so u got it from ur in-laws and husband..!! Relations are not BUSINESS.. so there is no use of relationship is a wrong sentence.. they are just bonds.. At times tight as a tick and at times loose as a goose..!! So u just do ur Karma... And u will get the fruit.. And they too vl get result of their Karma..!! :) *hugs*

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    5. This means a lot !!! I will do my best :) :)

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    6. M happy if this made a difference to ur life...!! And dont worry.. Keep going with ur emotions n expressions.. Nthg wrong in it...But dont expect others to express the same.. I hv many around me who dont express but I can feel them coz i know them thoroughly and have faith in them... Just have faith in bonds that u have.. Do keep me updated about the result.. And go grab a cuppa coffee.. So that it can be U, Me and Coffee talks.. :)

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  11. Dear Barkha.....
    Remember Always......
    "You can erase someone from your mind. Getting them out of your heart is another story."
    In our lives we meet people who we may only remember for five minutes, people we may only remember for five hours, people we may remember for 5 days, 5 months, 5 years, or even 5 lifetimes. When we make a bond with some people its as if that bond shapes and transforms us forever into something or someone we may never have been without meeting that person. Even when relationships end, some people have such lasting effects on our lives that years after our relationships with them end, we may still tend to think about them from time to time.

    It is important to remember that this is natural part of life, and that since what we experienced with them greatly affected us and helped shape us, that they will always be a part of us. But do remember, your past is your past for a reason, and usually when your relationships end and the healing process is over, don’t reopen old wounds. Let things be, and use your past as a learning experience.....
    If you return back to society Barkha what u earned from it your memories shall always live!

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    1. Firstly...for those who commented and visit my blog regularly..she is my mentor coz of whom i m in d blogging world and my entire success i owe it to her...

      Ya mummmaaa.. i understand what u say... coz the way u have transformed me into sm1 i wud have neva been without meeting u... U r part of my mind, my heart and my soul.. coz my thoughts, my words and my ethics in lyf are all what u have formed..

      And i agree.. Past is Past.. Dats what i told Aashaka in previous comment that I m a person who neva keeps grudges and who can welcome ppl back n number of times in my life... coz they mean to me a lot..

      And to the anonymous comment also i have told the same thing.. that experience whether gud or bad .. it always teaches u something.... and dats about it...

      Life is too beautiful to hold grudges and punish ourselves in the vengeance ... thats what once u taught me.. and i follow the same till date..!!

      I hope I live in ur memories foreva.. And always remain in ur heart..

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  12. Excellent work ma'am!!
    Keep up the spirit..
    looking forward for more!! :) <3




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    1. Thanks a ton Tanya..!!Sure vl try to write more... :) Keep stopping by regularly.. and u neva know when u get ur Food for Thought.. :)

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  13. Barkha, keep up the good work. nice very thoughtful, from your heart. life is very important, sometimes more important then people , people that you do not care for, And again people you care for are far more important then anything in life. very heartwarming thoughts really touched our hearts

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    1. Thank u soooooo very much....m glad it touched you...!! :)...Ya few people we care for are more important than life itself.... agreed...!! <3

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